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self into loud music – noisy company – finally into alcohol and
drugsNormally, that would be the last straw in this state of
great mental distress. It may even lead to suicide.

Father, mother, keep your eyes open. Give your child the
necessary warmth and security: love, patience and trust. The
years go by so quickly. Suddenly the child has left the nest.
Then there is time for yourself again.

Therefore, conversations, love and understanding are
needed, whether child or adult, everybody needs affection.
Indeed, not only man, but also animal and plant life. A plant
withers, an animal pines away, if they do not experience love
and affection – let alone a human being with a soul.

I hear parents say: „You do not cry because of something like
that!“ or: „Big boys do not cry!“ But why not? Why should a
person not cry, even more so a child? Tears are a gift from
GOD. How many worries and problems – how much grief –
trouble – anger – frustration – tiredness and exhaustion are
flushed out through tears. If a child, particularly a boy, is
brought up to believe that crying is improper, he will later also
be ashamed of his tears. Let a child cry if he has real grief, give
him time, stay with him and give him the security. When your
child has calmed down, speak with much understanding
about his grief that everything is not as bad as he thinks and
that everything will come all right again.

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With a lot of and often stressful work (which could sometimes
be planned better and more cleverly), the mother must always
be absolutely there for the mental needs of her child. The child
senses whether his mother listens with only one ear – whether

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