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An Unhappy Child

The above-listed issues are alarm signals, which you as a
mother, as a father must look into. – In a quiet moment when
you can be alone with your child. Never in front of others,
neither in front of his siblings. Your child’s personality must be
safeguarded. If you do not succeed on the first attempt to
bring your child to talk with you, then try again at another op-
portunity.

Examples: „You are worried, I can tell. – What is troubling
you? – Come, pour out your heart to me. – The two
of us will surely solve the problems together – we
do understand each other, don’t we? – It cannot
just be that bad.“

Closely observe your
child – not just when he
happens to stand before
you –, also at play – in the
street – in school – contact
his teacher and enquire
about your child’s be-
haviour.

You as a mother must be
like a radar throughout the day. It costs energy, I know. It is
called devotion, which is worth it. If a child does not enjoy the
needed confidence at home or does not have the opportunity
to relieve his feelings, he will harden his heart. He will cut him-
self off or explode. Young people go berserk – smash some-
thing up, perhaps resulting in conflicts with the police. If he
cannot give vent to his frustration anywhere, the young per-
son will go to seed mentally, then fail in school – in their career
– marriage and family. Physically this person usually feels
somehow drained of all strength and does not stand up to the
strains caused by life. What does he do then? He throws him-

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