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Together Things Will Go Better

nations – world affairs – fitting out the house – household – workplace –
wage conditions, etc. Last but not least also conversations about your
inner being – thinking and feeling.

If you have not learnt before marriage to speak frankly about every-
thing – to respond to your partner, it is going to be all the more difficult
for you later. There would not be so much hardening of hearts and
bitterness in your marriage if you had learnt to talk with your partner.

You should not always see the gloomy side of things but neither should
you enter into marriage so thoughtlessly or even irresponsibly, since
otherwise your partner – your children will have to suffer from it, indeed
possibly whole generations. –

If you marry, love is a mere flame – a fire, but still by no means a glow.
Through strength of character – forgoing gratification – consideration –
openness and constantly empathising with and putting yourself in the
place of your partner – by conscious daily efforts and spending time
with the other person, only then will true recognition arise – respect and
confidence. Only then will the fire of love become a quiet and steady
glow, always radiating warmth and security. Here you should very
much work on yourself that this glow may be preserved. Your marriage
must not become a dreary grind. If love only remains a flame, the
draught may quickly make it go out. –

Daily efforts and will power are demanded – a continuous striving for
the other person in words and deeds, in silent prayer – and again and
again the loving and helping conversation. The conversation opens
each other’s hearts – it breaks down inhibitions – it solves problems – it
makes free and more sensible and brings you closer to each other.

Together Things Will Go Better
In this way you can also overlook and forgive faults and weaknesses of
character; at the same time bear in mind that you are not perfect either.
You have to admit this to yourself. So much honesty and openness is
absolutely essential. You can also ask your partner: „In what respect

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