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For Bridal and Married Couples

yourself and directing yourself understandingly towards your neigh-
bour – wherever you are.

If you want to educate others, you first have to be educated yourself.
What are your children supposed to take over if perhaps you have
nothing to pass on? Here I am thinking less of material things than
rather of spiritual ones and those concerning the soul. I also mean a
fine formation of conscience, of the heart. How do you want to shape
the conscience of your child if perhaps you ignore your own?
With this elaborate work or checking of your self-education you are
inevitably somehow drawn to love, to love of neighbour, of your fel-
low man, of yourself.

Your Life Should Always Be You-Focused
In your life you will always be brought face to face with some person
or other, so you always have to give up a part of yourself or your
whole self. If you cannot do so, you should not consider a bond in
marriage. If you cannot give up your “self” in marriage – if you can-
not stand back – put the other person up front, then you are very
selfish – then your fellow human being has to suffer from it – then you
are hardly capable of entering into a lasting relationship – of es-
tablishing and preserving harmony and peace within a marriage and
family.

Do you seriously intend to marry – to have children –, then train your-
self already consciously early in life, at least during the period of your
acquaintance. Which means: Just as you would like to see your chil-
dren and have them to be, so too should you yourself behave. How
much more so, of course, in marriage.
Here I also speak of the purity of the soul – of good morals that
should mould your early years and the period of your acquaintance.
Do not anticipate what you are only entitled to in married life. Not un-
til they have ripened do the fruits taste fine. – What do you still want to
expect in marriage when you have relished everything in advance?

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