Page 10 - Instruction for Parents

Also your husband has a right to find the calming influence
with you, and not, on coming home exhausted from work, to
be greeted with reproaches – bellyaching – complaining about
the children – blaring music and a running TV. Be so wise not
to touch on topics that are hot potatoes anyway. Wait for the
right moment – it is worthwhile!

Back to the child. Is the child lost in his game or using his time
well, then do not needlessly tear him away from it by saying:
„Fetch me this quickly! – Do that for me!“ The child lives in a
fantasy world of his own, which should not be thoughtlessly
destroyed. This fantasy world is important for his de-
velopment. But feel free to tell the child: „If you are done
playing or no longer busy, would you mind helping me a bit?“
Also in the evenings, give the child enough time to finish his
game by pointing out to him that in half an hour it is dinnertime
or bedtime, etc. Not, for ex-
ample: „Finished – done
for today – tidy up!“ By
saying so, I possibly
smash the child’s
whole world. He is an-
noyed – does not feel
like cleaning up any
more and possibly for
days on end will not en-
joy playing. Because he does
not pick up or in annoyance throws things around him, he is
given a scolding, even a smack. All the rest of the perhaps
peaceful day is ruined. – That is how the child feels. Therefore,
think and act wisely.

If the child should help or do something, I may not necessarily
need to demand what is not his cup of tea at all, or for which he
has no skill. I think that the child should be spared as much as

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